Here are some of the mansy looks from last week’s MAKE TOTAL DESTROY runway show at the Blastomat that I helped put together… yes that’s a tie of safety pins on Jordan’s shirt!
Here are some of the mansy looks from last week’s MAKE TOTAL DESTROY runway show at the Blastomat that I helped put together… yes that’s a tie of safety pins on Jordan’s shirt!
Dear boulevardier,
As I try to incorporate fashion-forward thinking in my humble and quite flawed attempts, I none-the-less face various concerns. While I whole-heartedly embrace the idea of dressing in sexually ambiguous ways to challenge heternormativity and stereotypes, I wonder of the effects. For example, I feel like in some ways, because I do in fact identify as pretty much 100% hetero, that I am becoming something of a cock tease. While it does inflate my self-esteem, I feel that it’s not fair, and spending time with gay friends of mine, I feel that they are quite confused about me, although they know my orientation. I know it’s there fault for not inquiring for further clarification, but a few have just preferred to start ignoring me after hurt feelings. Other times I meet men, especially of the older generation, who really don’t understand why I dress this way. Perhaps being a mansy is really not for those who are 100% other-sex erotic.
Your thoughts?
- Anonymous
Okay anonymous! sorry to take so long to respond, I hope you read this!
Boulevardier does relationship advice! yay!
Basically all I have to say is, welcome to the world of objectification, we can’t create a feminist omelet without breaking a few eggs! Plus there’s no such thing at heterosexual and I think it’d be best to just move past your connection with genitalia and attraction. People like people, the rest is… drag? I hope that makes sense, but also people are probably going to like you now that you have self esteem and are not looking like an overgrown manchild, and you are going to have to deal with unwanted advances with the grace and aplomb that suits any mansy princess.
Always approach romance with emotional honesty and maturity. If you are not interested in someone, first ask yourself why. Give them the respect of truly understanding why you aren’t interested in them at this point in your life and let them know, not too honestly, of course! You don’t want to crush someone, but try to explain yourself clearly and don’t lead them on, if at all possible! If someone is flirting with you and they are not your type for whatever reason, it might sound simple, but don’t do things with them that can be considered romantic, even if you think it’s just friendly. Don’t depend on them for little rides or being a plus one to a party… if you’re tempted, and they’re a close friend, it might be time to drift apart for a little bit. Remember your manners, princess, and you’ll be just fine.
I don’t want… okay I do! want to get into psychoanalysis sooooo maybe “friend” in this case is just an unfulfilled sexual longing, especially if you’re hurt that they aren’t interested in you sexually and it inflates your… esteem (is that what you call it) when gay men cum onto you? So that may be something to think about as well? Open your mind and think about them sexually, there is an infinite number of ways to perform a relationship, maybe what’s in store for you two is sweet/sticky yet fleeting or just a little kissy kiss here and there, or something deep and emotionally involved yet barely physical, maybe just hugs? If you think of something, don’t be afraid to try it, ask them out and explain your emotions and what you want, if they think you’re weird then it wasn’t meant to be, if not, it could be the start of a beautiful friendship!
good luuuuuuuck! xoxox!